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« on: October 06, 2005, 10:32:50 PM » |
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hey guys, i'm bored and don't want to finish my paper just yet.. i was talking to my lady earlier, just about some random stuff. Anyways, after that I've just realized it's been three months with her already.. ( yeah, I know 3 months sounds like nothing, but in today's world.. :p... nvm' that's another topic). Anyways back to my main topic here. It'd be nice to hear thoughts from everyone. I guess I'd consider this my first serious GF. Looking back at High School, I feel that was just all play :p anyways, I'm pretty sure I don't have any commitment issues.. which is a good thing.
what are some good ways to keep the relationship going well and make it even stronger.
Discuss.
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tonyzoomzoom
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« Reply #1 on: October 06, 2005, 10:41:24 PM » |
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Sex sex and more sex  |
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« Reply #2 on: October 06, 2005, 10:41:35 PM » |
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a. ?be open with one another b. ?go out and do things with each other that you both enjoy c. ?take some road trips! d. ?oh yeah don't stop buying her flowers or doing the little things that she likes else it kinda goes sour after e. ?if applicable....keep the flame going!  f. ?if there's anything that bothers you be sure to talk about it...worst things that break a relationship is to keep things inside and not bring them out into the open. g. ?ask for feedback as the relationship progresses....ask what needs improvement and what is going well |
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« Reply #3 on: October 06, 2005, 10:48:52 PM » |
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a. be open with one another b. go out and do things with each other that you both enjoy c. take some road trips! d. oh yeah don't stop buying her flowers or doing the little things that she likes else it kinda goes sour after e. if applicable....keep the flame going! f. if there's anything that bothers you be sure to talk about it...worst things that break a relationship is to keep things inside and not bring them out into the open. g. ask for feedback as the relationship progresses....ask what needs improvement and what is going well e. hehe i like that.. i can't believe i'm going to say this, but you can't be doing that 24/7.. although it sure is fun :p another question, which dates do you celebrate anniversary's? 3 months? 6 months? every month? etc. dicuss. |
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« Reply #4 on: October 06, 2005, 10:50:09 PM » |
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tony: i sure hope your wife doesn't see your response  |
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« Reply #5 on: October 06, 2005, 10:52:16 PM » |
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i celebrated the 3, 6 and the year then it's yearly...of course the holidays and the birthdays in between
hehe no i don't mean doing it 24/7 but find a way to do the duty tastefully and not just jackhammer the shit out of the manhole. know what i mean? make it artsy or something.....i know it sounds weird but....
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« Reply #6 on: October 06, 2005, 11:02:27 PM » |
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dates to remember, besides the usually birthdays, etc.:
1. the first time you meet each other (and do remeber what she was wearing)
2. your first date (and location)
3. your first kiss
4. your first in-bed session
If you are efficient and the above four dates all happended on the same date, then there is only one date to remember instead of four !!!!!
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« Reply #7 on: October 07, 2005, 12:09:53 AM » |
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dates to remember, besides the usually birthdays, etc.:
1. the first time you meet each other (and do remeber what she was wearing)
2. your first date (and location)
3. your first kiss
4. your first in-bed session
If you are efficient and the above four dates all happended on the same date, then there is only one date to remember instead of four !!!!!
lol...... |
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« Reply #8 on: October 07, 2005, 12:11:14 AM » |
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a.? be open with one another
b.? go out and do things with each other that you both enjoy
f.? if there's anything that bothers you be sure to talk about it...worst things that break a relationship is to keep things inside and not bring them out into the open.
Those are true.? Find something you both like to do and keep doing it.? Also be honest to each other..... it's better to tell the truth but get a slap in the face (at least you're being honest) than to tell lies but she finds out later. ?One of the keys to long lasting relationship is communication. |
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« Reply #9 on: October 07, 2005, 12:12:29 AM » |
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communication
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« Reply #10 on: October 07, 2005, 12:12:44 AM » |
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Sex sex and more sex I'll keep that in mind ?  |
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« Reply #11 on: October 07, 2005, 12:13:29 AM » |
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One of the keys to long lasting relationship is communication.
And that includes both talking AND listening. |
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« Reply #12 on: October 07, 2005, 12:58:58 AM » |
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dates to remember, besides the usually birthdays, etc.:
1. the first time you meet each other (and do remeber what she was wearing)
2. your first date (and location)
3. your first kiss
4. your first in-bed session
If you are efficient and the above four dates all happended on the same date, then there is only one date to remember instead of four !!!!!
I think that's now the funniest thing I've read here. You sir, are quite a piece of work. I cringe the day your wife punches www.bcmazda3.com into her address bar. |
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« Reply #13 on: October 07, 2005, 01:13:06 AM » |
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LMAO!!!  |
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« Reply #14 on: October 07, 2005, 01:34:27 AM » |
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Sometimes in order for the relationship to continue going well ... you have to make her think she's right even when she's not and just deal with it ... otherwise get ready for an earful hahaha!
Nah, as suggested, be open and honest. Laugh at everything, find things you both enjoy doing (outside the bedroom) and also keep your lives separate enough so that you don't depend on each other exclusively ... otherwise you'll just cling to each other and while that might be cool for a while ... it will suck
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« Reply #16 on: October 07, 2005, 10:33:14 AM » |
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like arfman said keep your lives seperate enough so that both of you have the freedom to do whatever you want....within limits of course. keeps the oh....haven't seen you in a little while feeling going. also you'll end up not resenting the other person because you had to do something with them instead of with your buddies. So make sure it's balanced....and no saying that that the weekends are reserved for your buddies....ain't gonna cut it. Just be flexible with your days and stuff. It'll work out.
But ask yourself these questions:
Do you feel like sticking around?
Do you enjoy being around her?
Does she make you happy? feel appreciated?
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« Reply #17 on: October 07, 2005, 10:47:24 AM » |
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Other additional questions: Do you find you are going into more debt with her around than without her around? What are the things about her you can't live with? What are the things about her that you can't live without? Which one is greater?  |
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« Reply #18 on: October 07, 2005, 01:06:37 PM » |
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O.k. I have to admit - from a woman's point of view - I am impressed with all of your answers (although I have to tell you Tony - if and when I do meet your wife, I am going to direct her to this thread - sex, sex and more sex is it?).
There should be more men out there like you all!
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« Reply #19 on: October 07, 2005, 01:17:43 PM » |
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In all honesty, these things are easier said than done.? However, I would strongly suggest that if you only do one thing -- make sure that it is " I shall listen". You will be amazed at how much one can learn from a relationship if you truly pay attention to what you other half is saying -- both in terms of what is coming out of his / her mouth and the body language... btw, Desigirl. Everything that is said or even implied in this forum is STRICTLY between us members. Any leakage to outsiders will produce dire consequences (especially for me) |
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