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« Reply #20 on: December 18, 2006, 11:46:51 PM » |
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Don't rely on MSN and SMS. MSN and SMS has made us so lazy.........remember they are not infalliable.
Nothing beats a straight call to the phone.
Heck, there may be other circumstances that you don't know about...
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« Reply #21 on: December 18, 2006, 11:46:55 PM » |
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« Reply #22 on: December 18, 2006, 11:51:42 PM » |
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electronic messaging is never a good tool to use for important moments when dating, 1st, u won't have comfirmation she have recieved it. 2nd, there isn't any emotion or tone attached(even with emoicons). 3rd, u don't get to know her instant reaction and react accordingly.
I agree with Jason, best to ask in person, or phone calls are good too
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« Reply #23 on: December 18, 2006, 11:59:23 PM » |
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« Reply #24 on: December 19, 2006, 12:09:46 AM » |
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electronic messaging is never a good tool to use for important moments when dating, 1st, u won't have comfirmation she have recieved it. 2nd, there isn't any emotion or tone attached(even with emoicons). 3rd, u don't get to know her instant reaction and react accordingly.
I agree with Jason, best to ask in person, or phone calls are good too
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Hey, I used txt because that's what other Asian girls told me to do.  They suggested that txt would ease the pressure of talking to each other and give her time to decide. Still, nobody predicted this no-reply scenario. Everybody thought I would either get at least a reply, be it yes or no. This is strange lol. Just call her in a few days and than ask bout dinner~ Txting isn't preferably the best way; even if some other Asian girls tell you. "some" of them usually txt to each other in close friends point of view... |
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« Reply #25 on: December 19, 2006, 12:14:31 AM » |
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« Reply #26 on: December 19, 2006, 12:29:02 AM » |
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^Bad etiquette yes, but there are so many outs:
"My phone is messed up"
"I was in class and forgot to reply"
"What text? I didn't get anything"
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« Reply #27 on: December 19, 2006, 12:35:58 AM » |
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tojo's sushi`- chef tojo is the creator of the California Roll which is so widely used in japanese restaurants in the world.. so it's gotta be good lol
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« Reply #28 on: December 19, 2006, 12:41:43 AM » |
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It's not just a HK girl thing, but it's just a plain old girl thing. ?Different girls have different ways of handling things.
Right now, it definitely seems like you are more into her than she is into you (not a bad thing, as things don't always start out equally), but when there is that inequality, 1 day of not hearing from her is like an eternity....while for her....it's just one day.....
Are you waiting by the phone, by the computer....looking at the screen and just waiting for her name to pop up with a message? hehe, if you are...don't worry...it's not like many of us haven't been like that.
Whatever the case, don't call too often, or you'll just seem like a crazy pestering guy. ?I say give it at least a day in between calls or whatever. ?And honestly, if she doesn't reply, even to phone calls and voice mails....what more can you do? ?
As for the Western-influenced girls like to take things slow.....if you think that....then I think HK girls would be considered an eternity to you..hahaha
Honestly, where was that email joke where it says for Asian girls.....they can make you lose all your money, all your time, all your toughness,.......and you still probably won't get any....hahah
She's probably not ignoring the text messages due to it being offensive. ?There are a few reasons, some may bode well for you, some may not. ?Here's a simple list:
1) She thinks it's okay to reply later, and not right away.
2) She's ignoring you and hoping you get the message.
3) She's torn between what to do, and instead does nothing....
4) She never got them.
5) She's playing hard to get....(fuck I hate this...and can't stand this shit...and don't think it's worth it...haha)
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« Reply #29 on: December 19, 2006, 12:44:01 AM » |
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I actually had a case recently where I txt'd someone and she never responded. I thought it was snobby at first, only to find out later from another friend that she doesnt have txt msgs on her phone ... I've also encountered cases where sent txt msgs were not received until a day or two later (when I was with them) ... so yes, this also means, it can also be a way out for her to say she never received it. Usually txt'ing is ok though (hey, its the new way of flirting ...  ) If I were in your case, it would depend on how much time and effort you want to put out for this person and if she's worth it or not ... if you contact her again now after the 'failed' attemps, and she was trying to avoid, it could seem an act of desperation ... but f you can suck it up, just call. Possible scenarios: 1) No answer, 2) Voicemail, 3) Answers the phone ... just make arrangements on how to handle each one hahaha Also, for Downtown Japanese Food, the aforementioned Hapa Izakaya and Shirubay Chopstick Cafe have been my choices as well. Also Guu is ok, I prefer the Gastown location better than the Robson or Thurlow ones. |
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« Reply #30 on: December 19, 2006, 02:22:49 AM » |
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« Reply #31 on: December 19, 2006, 08:44:24 AM » |
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I don't know how she usually dresses, but a lot of HK girls always dress fashionably when going out for dinner.....
As for the situation the way it is.....it's easy to think of the negative aspects of what is happening, but there could be other reasons.
1. Her parents found out somehow and is forbidding her....who knows....
2. Something serious happened in her life (death, bad news..) and she's dealing with that and doesn't have the time to worry about other things...
3. She could just be very busy doing shopping....or even trying to get something special for you organized before you see her again.....
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« Reply #32 on: December 19, 2006, 04:25:47 PM » |
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Hey silvia_s14a, do you have to take her to downtown restaurant? I mean....if you're taking a girl out...for romantic dinner..I have one restaurant here but its in West Van. check it out: http://atthebeachhouse.inknoise.com/enterIts a nice place especially for dinner time...price range consider ok, not crazily expensive (often on the 1st date girls wont eat as much hehehe )....plus you will drive around with her bit longer...wouldnt be nice? PS: in my opinion...surprise her..dont take her to something that " in" for HK girls, you know...so I think being unpredictable will be nice. Aside from all of this....Good Luck, buddy |
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« Reply #33 on: December 19, 2006, 11:57:35 PM » |
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Mmmm... Beach House. Yummy.
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« Reply #34 on: December 20, 2006, 03:27:19 AM » |
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Hey silvia_s14a, do you have to take her to downtown restaurant? I mean....if you're taking a girl out...for romantic dinner..I have one restaurant here but its in West Van. check it out: http://atthebeachhouse.inknoise.com/enterIts a nice place especially for dinner time...price range consider ok, not crazily expensive (often on the 1st date girls wont eat as much hehehe )....plus you will drive around with her bit longer...wouldnt be nice? PS: in my opinion...surprise her..dont take her to something that " in" for HK girls, you know...so I think being unpredictable will be nice. Aside from all of this....Good Luck, buddy Thanks, sweetie! |
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« Reply #35 on: December 20, 2006, 02:40:06 PM » |
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« Reply #36 on: December 20, 2006, 04:03:20 PM » |
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Well it's not really unfair for you.....and don't look at it that way, because that's quite selfish.
For whatever reason that is only known to her, she is still hurting from her previous relationship and needs time to heal. That's the situation. It's not about being fair to you, because her suffering has nothing to do with you.
And I'm not sure what you mean, ...but you keep on using the term "score her".....for me the phrase "to score" is very specific, and if she heard you say that, I dunno if she's gonna be offended by that.
I dunno what sort of relationship you are looking for, but many times, how good a relationship is, is proportional to the selflessness one gives.
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« Reply #37 on: December 20, 2006, 07:29:19 PM » |
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